1 November 2014

Autumnal nail colours

Hey lovelies!

Autumn means a change in fashion.. so why should that just limit to clothes and hats! This time of year I prefer to go for deeper and darker shades on my nails - from shades of burgundy to dark green!



Darker colours are super on trend at the moment - they go so perfectly with the golden spread outside! It really puts you in the mood for autumnal themed activities (I say that like there are specific things to do.. which isn't really the case haha, maybe drinking a hot latte more often).

My personal favourite shades are the first two featured, the burgundy and the dark green/teal colour. The middle colour is more of a mix between blue and purple, I don't use it that often though. And the final two (purple and navy blue) are good to change things up. I actually like No. 17 varnishes because I think they are really good quality, dry well and stay on well. They are pretty cheap too! Definitely prefer them over Barry M (of which I own a large collection, but I don't buy from them anymore).




I don't always wear nail varnish though, I like having bare nails and it's always good to give your nails a break!

What are your favourite nail colours at the moment?

Lots of warm love,
Ayesha xxx

29 October 2014

Autumn!

Hello!

Sorry I have been so absent recently.. I have been piled under Master's work and other commitments. Hope you are all well though! 

This is a very short post just to express how happy I am that we are now properly in autumn! Autumn and winter are my favourite times of the year, with winter being my favourite season. Now that the leaves are actually golden everywhere, the hot weather has settled down, and the clocks have gone back, it really feels like autumn!

I love the crisp nights and the cool days. Ah, it's starting to get chilly! I'm so happy we have left summer time.. I don't think I can deal with the heat and humidity for so long. 

I love the style trends too.. The beautiful coats, gloves and wooly hats! The golden spread of colour through the streets.. It's all so stunning. I like rain but in moderation. Wind and rain together are my pet peeve. Apart from that I love autumn! It's not super cold yet, so no gloves or hats.. but I can sense that this will change soon.

Took this photo of my gorgeous uni campus!

Do you like this time of year? Or are you sad that summer is over?

Hugs,
Ayesha xxx

15 October 2014

Cognitive dissonance: difficulty making decisions?

Hello people!

Do you ever find yourself having a little battle in your mind over the smallest or biggest decisions? For example, when you are out shopping and you know you shouldn't be buying 'those pair of shoes' but you can't convince yourself to let them go? What you are experiencing is known as 'cognitive dissonance'. 

Social psychologists have highlighted that humans like to have consistency between their beliefs, attitudes and behaviours. When these are out of balance, we are motivated to reduce the inconsistency. A Psychologist named Leon Festinger (1957) proposed cognitive dissonance theory. Cognitive dissonance occurs when our beliefs and attitudes are inconsistent with our behaviour, i.e. we do something that contradicts with what we believe in.

For example, a smoker may be constantly informed about the negative effects of smoking, yet they continue to smoke. This would create mental tension (cognitive dissonance) for the smoker, and they would be motivated to reduce this mental tension by modifying their attitudes to fit their perception of their behaviour.

This can be done by three different ways:
1.      Changing behaviour: the individual may stop smoking.
2.      Using rationalisations: “smoking isn’t that dangerous, the media just exaggerate it”.
3.      Adding a third cognition: “I’ll quit smoking at the end of this year”.

However, an individual may experience post-decisional dissonance, where they may feel they have made the wrong decision. This can be avoided by selective exposure to subsequent information. For example, a person who has quit smoking recently feels they should have continued smoking (for various reasons), they may indulge in information that elaborated the positive aspects of quitting, such as the beneficial impact on health, reduced chances of getting lung cancer, absence of the smell of smoke etc. 

So hopefully that will help explain why we often have a little battle in our heads when making a decision!

Lots of Social Psychology love,
Ayesha xxx


3 October 2014

The Body Shop seaweed range ♥ part 2

Hey beauties!

In a previous post (found here) I raved about many products from TBS's seaweed collection for combination skin. I had mentioned that I will be trying their other three products (mattifying day cream, mattifying moisture lotion SPF 15, and the pore perfector) and will do a post soon. Well this is it!

Mattifying day cream:
Oh my goodness.. this is an AMAZING product. I'll be honest; I actually have tried this before when I bought a travel set of the seaweed range. I didn't like it then, or the smell. However, as far as I'm aware this has been reformulated (you can definitely see that with the change in consistency and texture) and I LOVE IT. Firstly, it smells like the rest of the range, which it didn't before. Secondly, it's much easier to apply as it's a lighter lotion. Thirdly, it mattifies so well! And, it doesn't dry out the dryer parts of my face. Basically, it does exactly what it says. I am so pleased with this, and I know I will be repurchasing this many times.. It is pricey for your average face cream, but it's so good that it's worth it, plus, you only need the tiniest amount and it covers really well - It's £11 for 50ml - but keep an eye out for the regular offers that TBS do!

 
Mattifying moisture lotion SPF 15:
Okay.. this is not for me, I found it way too greasy and it didn't absorb very well. I was told by the sales rep that this is basically the same as the day cream, only difference is that it has SPF. If that is the case then I really don't see the point in purchasing this for myself instead of the day cream, because it doesn't really mattify and leaves me with a sticky face (I presume the SPF is making it greasy). Besides, it's not like we have extensive sun in the UK, so if I want sun protection I will wear it separately. This is priced at £12 for 50ml.

Pore perfector 
This is a great product. I have noticed that my pores seem smaller and my skin looks more even. It smells good just like the other products too. It is a very small amount (15ml) for the price you pay (£12), but you are only supposed to apply a little at a time. I don't personally use too much anyway, as if you apply more your face can seem sticky (though it won't appear it). I only use this on my nose and on my forehead. Generally, I would repurchase this, but, I've noticed that with regular use of the seaweed products my pores/oil are under control and if I don't use the pore perfector it doesn't matter. 


Basically, TBS - if you are listening, thank you for making this range! I always find it disappointing when you spend a lot and the product fails to do what it says. Obviously, this is not the case here. I'm going to be a loyal seaweeder (I totally just made that word up)!

Love and hugs,
Ayesha xxx


26 September 2014

Mindfull Mental Matter: Online mental health support

Hello!

I just wanted to share this with you guys:
If any of you (only under 18 for the time being) are experiencing emotional and mental distress, or just going through a hard time, you can speak to someone. You can talk about your issues and anything that is bothering you, whether it's your friends/family/school or anything else, to a trained mentor/counsellor/mental health professional. Everything you disclose is confidential, with the exception if someone is at harm (of course). Mindfull UK offer emotional and mental wellbeing support for 11-17 year olds, but are expanding to age 25 very soon. Here is the link:

https://www.mindfull.org/
Remember, no one should have to go through a hard time alone. There is always help out there. This is a free service of course, don't forget!

And if you want to get involved and want to volunteer for them - you can apply for that too! Apply to be a mentor is you are under 18, or a life mentor if you are over 18. All training is provided! Let's spread awareness for this wonderful web support :)


Stay happy and blessed,
Ayesha xxx



20 September 2014

My love for art ♥

Hello lovelies!

This post is dedicated to all the artists out there, anyone who appreciates art, and anyone who is artistic regardless of how good they think they are. 

I've always been a very creative person since I was a child. Even when watching Tweenies my favourite part of their 'Tweenie Clock' was messy time! Hehe. Art was always my favourite subject in school too. Whether it's actually making things or just doing something creative on a piece of paper, I would love it more than anything else.

Since I finished  school, I've hardly had any time or motivation to do something creative. I definitely miss it. I came across some of my old artwork the other day and it made me feel happy looking back at the memories. I will share some pieces with you!

I'm in no way an outstanding artist.. no.. I do artwork for my own pleasure and enjoyment. Besides, I think there is always an element of art in everything!

Blue Pansy: made using oil pastels
Pink Lily: clearly I haven't finished this! I don't know when I will, as I don't want to rush it.. made using water colour pencils (as they have a much softer led which is easier to blend)
Red lilies: I made this as part of my GCSE coursework (so it's the oldest piece featured here!) This is made on A1 paper, so not all of it is photographed. Made using a selection of paint, oil pastels and chalk

Are any of you artistic?

Lots of love,
Ayesha xxx

13 September 2014

Life after graduation - journey towards your career

Hello beautiful people!

Okay so, I thought I'd share my personal thoughts and experience with you for what life after graduating with an undergraduate degree has been like. Hopefully some of you might find this useful, relatable, or just good to read! Especially for those of you who have just graduated over the summer. 

Naturally, everyone's experiences are different but there is a common theme that often other people and graduates themselves think they're going to 'dive' straight into their perfect job and live happily ever after. 

Erm, hello? Reality check please?!

I never expected to land the perfect job because I didn't intend on paid working straight away. I have a background in Psychology and I want to go onto become a Clinical Psychologist one day. That path to that is not only long, but tough - you are required at least a year's worth of clinical/research experience and then a doctorate degree (DClinPsy or PsyClinD), sometimes also with a Master's degree to improve chances of getting accepted for the clinical training (the doctorate). 

For those of you who still expect that everything will go perfectly, please don't. Of course if it does for you then that's absolutely great, but if it doesn't it's not the end of the world. Finding a job of your choice (yes, emphasis on choice), is not as easy. Think about it - if you realllly want that job, what makes you think others won't too? Obviously that means that getting the job will be competitive, right? It's one thing to just get 'a job'.. but it's another to get a job you love. 

I personally think a career in something you are passionate about is much more fulfilling than a career that just pays the bills. I also think enjoying what you do is necessary to succeed to the best of your ability. So many people that I know have gotten a job they don't even like, purely because they felt they had to have a job. I believe it's better to be using your time and energy doing something that will help to get your dream job, even though that is more difficult. 

This is where the hard part comes in. Experience. As I mentioned earlier, I didn't want to get a paid job straight away, but instead get relevant experience. Why? I can't stress the importance and value employers place on work experience. Especially if it is voluntary - it shows how committed you are to what you want. Having said that, unpaid experience is not always easy to get either (what the hell? I know right!!) as so many other people might also be trying to do the same. So what do you do now? Well, you have your own brain right? So, you use your own initiative and GO GET THOSE OPPORTUNITIES.

I will give you an example of one of my major achievements this year which was inspired through a rejection for an important unpaid role. So I had applied for a role which is highly valuable within my field, and yes I was rejected. Okay so I was disappointed. But, that disappointment gave me a ridiculous amount of motivation and I thought to myself, "My career isn't just 'going to happen'. I need to take things in my own hands". And so, one Sunday evening I sat down, wrote a short concise email (attached with my CV) asking for any requirement (for the same role that I was turned down for) and sent it to about 15 different potential employers. I did this as a safe bet; there was nothing to lose but only to gain. In fact, to be honest I didn't expect any positive replies. But guess what.. I received FIVE offers! All eager to work with me! I was absolutely mind blown and so grateful! As a result, I have been developing my skills and expanding my experience widely, which means that now when I do decide to apply for my chosen job, I will hopefully have a much stronger application. Another point to remember is - it doesn't always matter what you do, but what you learn from it. If you can show your employers what transferable skills you have picked up and how they can benefit the job you're applying for, you're automatically going to be in their good books. For example, you might have previously been a waitress or bartender and are now applying for a teacher's job. You could easily explain that from your waitressing/bartending you improved your communication and/or developed problem-solving skills as a result of dealing with difficult customers. 

So lovelies, don't sit around for life to just happen.. go and carve your own path the way YOU want it. Let your failures be the reason for your success (wow, did I actually just quote something so inspirational?!) Don't take into account what anyone says or expects because it's your life and it's your choice. 


Also, don't forget that you are still growing and actually 'finding yourself' during all this time. You get placed in a lot of different situations which require different levels of responsibility. Especially if you are working. I think this is what takes a lot of adjusting. You spend all your life (almost always continuously) in education living quite care freely, and then BAM.. you're an adult. There's no waking up late or missing lectures because you can't be bothered; no, you're an adult and you live by the rules. But don't let that scare you as with all that there is a great level of satisfaction to know that you are looking ahead to the rest of your life!

The good news! I am going to be a student again! I'm starting a highly competitive Master's degree at an extremely prestigious university!




Lots of happy, motivational love,
Ayesha xxx